We all have many. Some we cherish, some we’d rather forget. Either way we think we have total control over our memories. Sadly life can be cruel and there are those who cannot remember. Not because they don’t want to but because Dementia does not let them. Symptoms of dementia include loss of memory, confusion and problems with speech and understanding.
When I was asked to make a piece for Stamford Artisans Guild’s Memories Exhibition to raise funds for Dementia Support South Lincs I did a lot of thinking. And remembering.
I have often jokingly said “I can’t remember” in order to be evasive or to wind up Mr A.
But what if one day I really can’t remember?
A Hindi film called “Jewel Thief”… The lead female character in that film called Shalini… And the fact that my name is Shalini because my aunts decided I should be called Shalini after watching Jewel Thief…
And a song in the film which has the words “O Shaalu”
Carly Simon sang “You’re so vain, you probably think this song is about you “. I don’t think it was vanity but as a child I always thought this song WAS about me because everyone calls me Shalu (Shaloo) and I have always referred to it as my song. Some of my friends do as well 🙂 Recently Raja added it to a playlist he made on twitter and told me he had added my song.
While talking to another twitter friend Ava about the song she said she loved the dress “Shalini” was wearing and the coin necklace (just like the headband in the picture). And how coin necklaces were all the rage, her mother had one. I am not sure if I had one but I definitely wanted one!
These little things are just there, part of life, part of growing up, part of my memories.
Anyway… I said I should make a coin necklace and Ava said I should use pennies because I work so much with copper. It was an idea filed away for future like many others.
And now you are thinking “She is so vain! This post is about her!” Of course it is! It is about a memory that is important to me, its about why I am called Shalini. And its about a sincere hope that I do not get to the stage when I can’t remember who I am or why someone is calling me Shalini. And its about telling you all that no matter how special your memories are one day they might fade away. Cherish them while you can and be kind to those who can’t any more.
And if you want to listen to MY Song it is on Youtube 🙂